quotes from danae dobson’s "let’s talk!"

… ON DATING GUYS FROM CHURCH
“Suppose you’re attracted to a guy at church. He’s funny, intelligent, and totally gorgeous. You smile and flirt a little when you’re around him, just to let him know you’re interested. He reciprocates, and before long your wish has come true — HE ASKS YOU OUT ON A DATE!…

“… Some of you may think dating is a bad idea, and there’s certainly a valid argument for that point of view (see “Waiting for Dating?” on page 123). But whether you are already hitting the scene or just wondering what to look for in a future husband, it would be a good idea to think through some of the basics.

“First, keep in mind that you should not even consider going out with non-Christian guys. Period! There’s too much at stake to take a chance on an unbeliever, so I recommend that you not “go there.”…

“… Sometimes a red flag will pop up when you first meet someone. I’m reminded of what Jesus said in Matthew 7:20: ‘By their fruit you will recognize them.’ I often think of this verse when it comes to the opposite sex. I can usually get a hint of where a guy is spiritually within the first five minutes of conversation. Can you? If you’re uncertain, just watch for the clues. If he brags on himself, talks about money too much, or mentions a wild party he just attended, then move on. There could be a rotten piece of fruit on that tree!”

… ON SEXY FUN TIME
“Why does God tell single people to abstain from sex? Let’s analyze this for a moment. His commands in the Bible are for our benefit — and they are designed to keep us from creating disastrous situations for ourselves. Consider this: if I decide to jump off a one-thousand-foot cliff, I will die when my body hits the ground. That’s a fact. Gravity was designed by God, but not for the purpose of punishing me for my folly. His physical laws govern the universe, and those who defy them are destined to suffer the consequences. So it is with God’s moral laws. They, too, are as real and predictable as the principles that govern the world around us.” (SERIOUSLY?? HAHAHAHHA)
 
“True story #1: Kyle wanted to do things his own way. He went through several relationships and slept with each of his girlfriends. His frivolous lifestyle was fun and exciting — while it lasted. Kyle currently lives in a state of regret over a baby that he fathered and is struggling with child-support payments. Despite Kyle’s misery, the baby will be the one who suffers the most for Kyle’s mistakes…
 
“True story #3: Kimberlin dated Matt for two years before agreeing to have sex with him. She knew it was wrong, but her decision was easy to rationalize. After all, she and Matt were in love — they would soon be engaged. You can imagine her shock when Matt broke up with her for someone else. Kimberly is now recovering from a broken heart that took a long time to mend. She admits that the pain wouldn’t have been so severe if she hadn’t slept with her boyfriend. Now Kimberlin knows that she gave away something precious that she should have saved for her husband.
 
“True story #4: After a party one night, Gina succumbed to having sex with a male friend — just a brief, casual encounter, for the sake of a little fun. Where is Gina now? Currently married, with herpes simplex disease. It is incurable and will plague her for the rest of her life.”